War has a huge transgenerational impact on individuals, family systems and societies all over the world. I would like to share some of the ways in which the trauma of war continues to impact future generations. War affects all those who are fighting, their family systems and communities, the…
Let’s take a look at what happens when anger is suppressed or carried down transgenerationally through a family system. Sources of Anger Anger may be the result of feelings of injustice, unfairness, wrongdoing, betrayal, embarrassment, or resentment. Anger that originates in frustration may simmer on the back burner over weeks,…
I woke in the night with the message that trauma is the source. I jotted that down in my journal and fell back to sleep. In the morning I read that message and I let it hang in the air. I soon realized that part of the message that was…
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ Let’s talk systemically about money. How many of you inwardly cringed or otherwise perked up at the mention of money? Discussing money is a difficult thing for many individuals to do, however, it is a systemic emotional family issue that desires greater attention. Many families don’t discuss their relationship…
It’s convenient to blame a war on one man. When discussing World War II, most of the world points the finger at Adolf Hitler. The truth is that we behave the way others let us behave. The world stood aside and let Hitler behave the way he behaved. The heavy…
In this blog post, I will address the topic of incest. Rape culture and sexual assault is such a huge topic today, that I thought I would systemically address the issue of incest in the family system. Let’s look at the societal definition of incest: “Incest: sexual intercourse between persons…
This post supplies you with boundary setting exercises. I experienced these exercises in various forms at workshops and trainings. Boundary setting is essential to sever energetic entanglements with the living and the dead. In Systemic Constellations, a long scarf is frequently used to create a physical reminder that there is…
Guest Blog: By Nadja Skazlić (Nadja is a friend and colleague from Zagreb, Croatia who I met at the 2014 Systemic Constellations Intensive in Bernried, Germany in May. She works with individuals around the break up of relationships. Her webpage is http://www.nadja.hr/) What if it isn’t the end? What if…
