Let’s discuss Energetic Emotional Entanglements that come out of unresolved family emotional trauma and wounds. If you are struggling with chronic conditions, repetitive life patterns, and/or relationship issues that aren’t serving you well, and you can’t seem to shift the energy, then this post might be for you. Part 1 & 2 of this post discussed our energetic emotional connection to the universe, how the body is the tuning fork that picks up and sends out energetic emotional signals to others, and how we seek energetic emotional healing in relationships. Part 4 will discuss Energetic Emotional Entanglements within Intimate Relationships and how to end these Entanglements.
Part 1: https://www.peacefulpossibilities.ca/emotions-part-1family-constellations-calgary/
Part 2: https://www.peacefulpossibilities.ca/emotions-relationships-part-2family-constellations-calgary/
Energetic Emotional Entanglements
We are energetically emotionally interconnected with all the other members of our greater family system. Some of these connections are Energetic Emotional Entanglements. That means we are likely attempting to energetically carry or share the emotional burden of another individual or group in the family system that wants to be seen, heard, welcomed, recognized, acknowledged, accepted, loved, respected, or honoured.
These individuals may be energetically shunned, excluded, caste out, missing, given away, banned, miscarried, aborted, stillborn, given away to adoption, harmed by others, the one to do harm to others, institutionalized, incarcerated, or not mourned or grieved adequately. They may have died too young or tragically, been one to live an unusual life, been former partners treated poorly in any generation, been intimate partners that didn’t get to be together, been those who fought in a war or experienced war, been those displaced from their homeland, been involved in slavery or any other situation with a victim and a perpetrator, been those who gained or lost a fortune or those who inherited unjustly, or those different in any number of other ways. What are your family secrets? That’s one place in the family system to begin looking for Energetic Emotional Entanglements.
Energetic Self Sacrifice
We unconsciously sacrifice ourselves by taking on these Energetic Emotional Entanglements in this way for the greater good, healing, and balancing of our family system. We do it out of unconscious love and loyalty to the family system. Everyone has a right to belong in the family system regardless of what they may have done or not done. We unconsciously sacrifice ourselves energetically very early in life and frequently as early as conception. We may also self sacrifice in adulthood related to any emotional stressor or trauma that occurs in our life or in the lives of our loved ones.
Unconscious Emotional Responses
In many past posts I’ve discussed our conscious rational behaviours and our unconscious emotional reactive responses. Many of these unconscious emotional responses are based on early childhood programming by everyone in your life. Sometimes they are the result of unresolved ancestral emotional response patterns that transgenerationally pass down to you by any number of family members who suppressed their emotional responses to trauma and stressful situations.
These unconscious response patterns will be underlying all of your relationship behaviours in life. If you are more concerned about the needs of others in relationships and ignore your own needs you are engaging in energy deadening behaviours. This pertains to relationships with anyone. Being in Agency to your family system is also energy deadening. What Energetic Emotional Entanglements are holding you back from living life fully?
Emotional Self-Abandonment
You might like to read my posts on Living in Agency or Self-Abandonment to understand some of your unconscious reactive behaviours in relationships.
https://www.peacefulpossibilities.ca/family-constellations-living-in-agency/
https://www.peacefulpossibilities.ca/stop-living-in-agencyfamily-constellations-calgary/
Former Energetic Partners
Former partners remain in your family system forever, even if there are no children born of the relationship. That’s why it’s sometimes very difficult to leave a significant relationship behind even when you know it is over. The head might know it but the body might not. These energetic entanglements can be severed when we leave the relationship in a healthy way and respect the individual we are leaving behind.
When we leave a relationship without completion, with great animosity, or we hurt the other individual intentionally, this energetic response may follow you into your future relationships or may show up energetically in the lives of your children or grandchildren. So take the time to do the deep body-felt healing work around each relationship that is unresolved emotional and energetically in your life.
Part 4 of this post will discuss Energetic Emotional Entanglements with former intimate partners and what to do about them. The big question today is: “Do you need to recognize, accept, welcome, respect, love, honour, or mourn someone in your family system?”
