It’s convenient to blame a war on one man. When discussing World War II, most of the world points the finger at Adolf Hitler. The truth is that we behave the way others let us behave. The world stood aside and let Hitler behave the way he behaved. The heavy…
This blog post explores the topic of sexuality, sex identity, and gender identity from a systemic approach. This topic arose when an individual wanted my response to online criticisms of Bert Hellinger around the topic. So I will address the criticism that is out there in cyberspace, listen to Hellinger’s…
I woke up the other day involved in a chat with cancer. Some days I just wake up knowing what I’m supposed to write about and share with others. I don’t have cancer, but nevertheless, the chat was very informative and I thought I would pass on the messages that…
In this blog post, I will address the topic of incest. Rape culture and sexual assault is such a huge topic today, that I thought I would systemically address the issue of incest in the family system. Let’s look at the societal definition of incest: “Incest: sexual intercourse between persons…
Is there patriarchy in Family Constellations? The next few blog posts are going to address several topics of concern to individuals that search online for “Bert Hellinger” or “Family Constellations” and discover the man has critics. I am not going to address the critics themselves, however, I will address the…
Your mother was the perfect mother for you. What is your immediate emotional response to that statement? The answer that comes without thought, defensiveness, rationalizing, or intellectualizing will reveal much about where you are along your emotional and spiritual healing journey in this lifetime. Your mother is your source of…
Is the relationship with your mother problematic? Perhaps your mother has passed to the other side and you have some regrets? It’s never too late to shift the inner image you hold of your mother. This is not about creating a fairy tale about your relationship. It’s about looking back…
The relationship between mothers and daughters is energetically, emotionally, and spiritually complex on many levels. It is meant to be that way. This blog is written with deep love and respect for all mothers, including my own. It is written to honour mothers and the role of women systemically. The…
This is not a pro-life or pro-choice discussion on abortion. It is not a discussion of the right to have an abortion or not. This is about the emotional and energetic impact of an abortion on an individual and/or the greater family system. It’s a discussion about what happens…
This post supplies you with boundary setting exercises. I experienced these exercises in various forms at workshops and trainings. Boundary setting is essential to sever energetic entanglements with the living and the dead. In Systemic Constellations, a long scarf is frequently used to create a physical reminder that there is…
