A reader recently asked a couple of questions in the comment section of a blog post. The reader wanted to know if there are any times when it is not alright to set up a systemic constellation. As well, there was a question related to how the facilitator finds out…
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I was surprised, and yet I should not have been, to discover the traditional medicine wheel of indigenous peoples travels differently in the Southern Hemisphere. I came upon this revelation quite naturally. After climbing to the top of the highest volcano on Easter Island, Chile, I sat with my travel…
I would like to draw some messages from the ancient ones that surround us, both the human variety and the magnificent trees of nature. I have been attracted to the beauty of trees all of my life. Perhaps I learned to appreciate trees, rather than take them for granted, because…
The year 2015 is drawing to a close and with closure comes the potential for new doors of opportunity to open. I wish you all greater emotional depth in your lives in 2016 and enlightening adventures into your own family systems. Recently, in my doctoral program, I was asked to…
War has a huge transgenerational impact on individuals, family systems and societies all over the world. I would like to share some of the ways in which the trauma of war continues to impact future generations. War affects all those who are fighting, their family systems and communities, the…
Let’s take a look at what happens when anger is suppressed or carried down transgenerationally through a family system. Sources of Anger Anger may be the result of feelings of injustice, unfairness, wrongdoing, betrayal, embarrassment, or resentment. Anger that originates in frustration may simmer on the back burner over weeks,…
I woke in the night with the message that trauma is the source. I jotted that down in my journal and fell back to sleep. In the morning I read that message and I let it hang in the air. I soon realized that part of the message that was…
This post will look at the behaviour pattern of hoarding through the lens of family systems. Reality television shows have highlighted extreme situations of hoarding and it has a tendency to desensitise us to the everyday situations of hoarding that are more prevalent. Hoarding seems to have a sense of…
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ Let’s talk systemically about money. How many of you inwardly cringed or otherwise perked up at the mention of money? Discussing money is a difficult thing for many individuals to do, however, it is a systemic emotional family issue that desires greater attention. Many families don’t discuss their relationship…
