I would like to draw some messages from the ancient ones that surround us, both the human variety and the magnificent trees of nature. I have been attracted to the beauty of trees all of my life. Perhaps I learned to appreciate trees, rather than take them for granted, because…
The year 2015 is drawing to a close and with closure comes the potential for new doors of opportunity to open. I wish you all greater emotional depth in your lives in 2016 and enlightening adventures into your own family systems. Recently, in my doctoral program, I was asked to…
This post will look at the behaviour pattern of hoarding through the lens of family systems. Reality television shows have highlighted extreme situations of hoarding and it has a tendency to desensitise us to the everyday situations of hoarding that are more prevalent. Hoarding seems to have a sense of…
This blog post explores the topic of sexuality, sex identity, and gender identity from a systemic approach. This topic arose when an individual wanted my response to online criticisms of Bert Hellinger around the topic. So I will address the criticism that is out there in cyberspace, listen to Hellinger’s…
I woke up the other day involved in a chat with cancer. Some days I just wake up knowing what I’m supposed to write about and share with others. I don’t have cancer, but nevertheless, the chat was very informative and I thought I would pass on the messages that…
In this blog post, I will address the topic of incest. Rape culture and sexual assault is such a huge topic today, that I thought I would systemically address the issue of incest in the family system. Let’s look at the societal definition of incest: “Incest: sexual intercourse between persons…
Your mother was the perfect mother for you. What is your immediate emotional response to that statement? The answer that comes without thought, defensiveness, rationalizing, or intellectualizing will reveal much about where you are along your emotional and spiritual healing journey in this lifetime. Your mother is your source of…
Is the relationship with your mother problematic? Perhaps your mother has passed to the other side and you have some regrets? It’s never too late to shift the inner image you hold of your mother. This is not about creating a fairy tale about your relationship. It’s about looking back…
This post supplies you with boundary setting exercises. I experienced these exercises in various forms at workshops and trainings. Boundary setting is essential to sever energetic entanglements with the living and the dead. In Systemic Constellations, a long scarf is frequently used to create a physical reminder that there is…
Many physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, and relational conditions and symptoms create a boundary for an individual. This is especially evident when the individual doesn’t have a healthy strong energetic boundary in life. In its infinite wisdom, the unconscious mind, which is imprinted in the cells of the body, provides a…
