Patriarchy

Is there patriarchy in Family Constellations? The next few blog posts are going to address several topics of concern to individuals that search online for “Bert Hellinger” or “Family Constellations” and discover the man has critics. I am not going to address the critics themselves, however, I will address the…

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Mothers and Daughters (Part 3)

Your mother was the perfect mother for you. What is your immediate emotional response to that statement? The answer that comes without thought, defensiveness, rationalizing, or intellectualizing will reveal much about where you are along your emotional and spiritual healing journey in this lifetime. Your mother is your source of…

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Mothers and Daughters (Part 2)

Is the relationship with your mother problematic? Perhaps your mother has passed to the other side and you have some regrets? It’s never too late to shift the inner image you hold of your mother. This is not about creating a fairy tale about your relationship. It’s about looking back…

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Mothers and Daughters (Part 1)

The relationship between mothers and daughters is energetically, emotionally, and spiritually complex on many levels. It is meant to be that way. This blog is written with deep love and respect for all mothers, including my own. It is written to honour mothers and the role of women systemically. The…

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Abortion

  This is not a pro-life or pro-choice discussion on abortion. It is not a discussion of the right to have an abortion or not. This is about the emotional and energetic impact of an abortion on an individual and/or the greater family system. It’s a discussion about what happens…

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Boundary Setting

This post supplies you with boundary setting exercises. I experienced these exercises in various forms at workshops and trainings. Boundary setting is essential to sever energetic entanglements with the living and the dead. In Systemic Constellations, a long scarf is frequently used to create a physical reminder that there is…

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Symptoms Create A Boundary

Many physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, and relational conditions and symptoms create a boundary for an individual. This is especially evident when the individual doesn’t have a healthy strong energetic boundary in life. In its infinite wisdom, the unconscious mind, which is imprinted in the cells of the body, provides a…

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Healthy Boundary

After reading my last blog, you may be sensing that some of your relationships with others may not have a healthy boundary. There may be unresolved emotional trauma lingering from the past creating unhealthy relationships with those who are living and those who have died in the physical world and…

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Systemic Healing

Systemic healing of human beings frequently runs counter to quantitative empirical study because it takes into account that we are unique creatures. Systemic healing focuses on context. One of the limitations of scientific study is that it continually seeks commonalities to back a hypothesis. If a particular event Z occurs…

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Relationship

Guest Blog: By Nadja Skazlić (Nadja is a friend and colleague from Zagreb, Croatia who I met at the 2014 Systemic Constellations Intensive in Bernried, Germany in May.  She works with individuals around the break up of relationships. Her webpage is http://www.nadja.hr/) What if it isn’t the end? What if…

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